March 2009 Newsletter

This month's article is entitled "A Great Parent is a Great Listener." I hope you enjoy it!

March is a special month for me because it is my birthday month! Yippee!!

Three years ago, five days before my birthday, I lost a very dear person in my life ... my mother. She died suddenly and I was devastated. I've never felt so lost in all my life. It felt as though the umbilical cord of life's energy had been cut, and I felt every single thing.

My mom had the most beautiful heart and was a wonderful mom and grandma. When March 3rd rolls around each year, my kids and I take some time to talk about "Grandma Pat" and what we miss, what we enjoyed, and how important love and togetherness are.

I was fortunate enough to have the foresight to spend quality time with my mom at every opportunity, because I knew she would one day be gone. Somehow I was gifted with not taking her life for granted. I am so thankful for that gift in my life. We had many cherished moments before she died.

Each of us will eventually be that mom or dad who is leaving our child(ren) behind ~ whether our children are grown or still young.

I suggest asking yourself the following questions, and making whatever adjustments you feel are appropriate …

• If I died today, what would I wish I had done with my kids?
• What would I wish I had said?
• What would I wish I had written for them?
• Do they know ~ do they actually HEAR it from me, and EXPERIENCE it from me ~ how much I love them? (In their language of love?)
• Do I take time to understand who they are?

Find your curiosity. Learn about this person who has been gifted to you in your parenting life. There is a reason each of your children is in your life. There is a reason you are in theirs.

Take the time today to love them ~ in their way.

Some day they will have to say goodbye to you. Give them the gift of no regrets.

Spend time walking, talking and connecting.

Show them who YOU are so they can share stories about you with their children and grandchildren.

Leave a legacy of love and connection, openness and authenticity, and teach your children how to do the same.

Our children need us to be present for them while we are alive. They need us to connect, to share, to guide, and to listen.

May many blessings be showered upon you and your family.

Namaste'
Traci