In my parenting experience, I am reminded of the quote, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” (Gandi)
I find myself going deeper and deeper into the healing of my childhood wounds and beliefs about life that no longer serve me, with each passing year. And in that process, I find that the more I heal my wounds, the less baggage my children are required to carry forward in their lives, and into the generations that follow.
The other day, I asked God to help bring peace to my relationship with my dad. Due to religious differences, he chooses not to have a relationship with me, which has brought me much sadness over the years. While I’ve accepted it, I know it still impacts the relationships I have with others in my life.
In the process of being willing to surrender to peace at an even deeper level, along with realizing that I don’t have to recreate the past ~ I can create what I want for myself and my own family, I am finding a deeper sense of freedom and joy within me. I am letting go of baggage. I don’t know what that will bring in the actual relationship with my dad. However, magically, I already see it transforming the relationship I have with my husband, as well as my daughter’s relationship with him. My willingness to let go has not only impacted my life, it has also given my daughter freedom to live a different life. Beautiful! And … that means she will not carry that lesson to her children.
Remember, we are free to create the life we want … regardless of where we come from. We really are. And in the process of healing, creating, and thriving, we gift our children with not having to deal with our wounds, baggage and pain, and free them up to live an amazingly brilliant life. They get to be free too.
[Traci Carman, Founder of A Loving Way ~ How I Parent Makes a Difference, www.alovingway.com. You are invited to sign up for our free newsletter.]